HI. My wife has been seeing a Dr for two years for Borderline personality disorder. . After many years of wanting my step-son to see the same Dr., he was was finally seen about six months ago for an evaluation and about 5 follow up appointments. Since my step-sons appointment, the Dr has revealed what his diagnosis is to me but refuses to discuss it with my wife. Because of my wife's diagnosis and emotional reactivity, the Dr knows that if he were to discuss the seriousness of her child's diagnoses with her, that almost certainly he would lose her as a patient. The child has oppositional defiant disorder.

So I am stuck looking like a idiot to my wife and paying needless money since it was me who had serious concers about my stepson and now the Dr has my wife thinking there is nothing wrong with him. What do i do?