Yea.....hope you have a very enjoyable time.

I dont believe that love is blind....that comment usuallt comes with our need to RATIONALIZE a bad situation.

It usually comes down to the fact we chose to tolerate crap or some are trapped in a situation we cant easily get out of. But we are not blind to the issues. Like you, you knew that he never paid for a meal the whole time you were with him. We look the other way when we are getting some level of our needs met by the relationship. Is that REALLY LOVE?

At the same time we know & see what is going on we just chose not to allow those things to interfear with what we truly WISH was going on in our lives. Maybe some of the problem can end up being what we define as love.

So glad youvare getting out & rnjoying yourself & opening yourself up to finding a real functional relationship.

For me, it wasnt until I was surrounded by functional people & observing functional marriages that I was able to see EXACTLY what was wrong in my own dysfunctional marriage & my parents that had become observed as NORMAL. I fought & hated my marriage but I had no ideavwhat was foundationally wrong wuth it. I was fighting the symptoms not the cause. We can sense when things sre wrong & need to pay attention to that sense but it doesnt always show us the real foundational problem. For me, I had no idea what emotional connection felt like or I would have recognized that as the core problem in my marriage....not just in myself but in my H. Just like my parents marriage so it was my normal.

I found out after getting awsy that I was capable ofemotionally connecting & learning how. My H on the ither hand was incapable. At least now I know if I ever find someone in my life what to really look for & what is functional & what is dysfunctional. We can see all the red flags but if we dont know what they really mean they are not very helpful because they can then too easily be rationalized away.....(just stuff I've learned from my own personal experiences & good therapy over the last few years..lol...sometimes I'm way too analytical)