My question is why would we think they ever changed?

Sometimes we have to learn that SEKF-VALIDATION is the ONLY way we are going to experience ant validation regarding the abuse/neglect/trauma we went through when it comes to the actual people involved.

We want them to hear us but we cant FORCE them to want to hear....that is their chouce & there comes a time when we need tobgather our own strength together & write them out of our life.

Even with the crap my H is still creating in my life from 2100 miles away, I no longer alloe him to have the power over my emotions he had when I was living there....he no longer causes me to see red when dealing with the crap he causes & even though I am trapped in having to deal with the situations & I am no longer trapped in the way that caused me to atrempt suicide so often when I was trapped in having to luve in the same house.

Distancing from actions, words is necessary & expecting a different reaction out of someone who has never changed is either pure wishful thinking or just plain insanity on our part when they have given absolutely NO indication that any change has taken place.

It is important to learn skills that keep words from having that kind of power over us to continue to effect us in such negative ways.