She has agreed to counseling and even to reading some therapeutic books that I recommended. She went ahead and bought them for both of us. I thought was great. I feel she honestly thinks I’m controlling her because I m trying to help us both. She’s open to the help and then not. She comes home everyday disgruntled. The venture house cd be clean and dinner made she seems to find something not to be happy about. Intimacy has gone for over a month now, in which she blames me for. I’ve tried with her saying it’s too late or something. Granite I’m so sick it’s hard but when I do try she finds away out of it. I wish the therapist wd get us in ASAP. Thank you for your advice. This may be a losing battle but at least she’s willing to work on this. That’s when I was like okay here she is wanting us to do better... Great! I just don’t know anymore.