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Originally Posted by Patagonia
Just ruminating on some thoughts about this word "commitment" associated with the institution of marriage. I'm not bashing it, honestly.
I think the term marriage should be replaced with the word "lease" like you would get with a car. Set it for a certain amount of time & then come back & see if you wanto continue.
Is there anything else in our lives that we vow to keep forever? Even a 30 yr mortgage can be refinanced. Legally we are committed to raise our offspring to the age of 18 yrs old. But marriage we feel obligated to stay in till death.
I know there are couples out there that have found their life partners & will stay together till the end. They would renew that lease. And yes I understand that divorce is an option for almost half of married couples, but that word leaves a bitter taste in our mouths & leaves others with negative thoughts.
So why is this religiously based institution still around & still cherished by so many?
Just my thoughts.
Any comments?
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Lots of animals mate for life. I'm told marriage was started to control disease, by the church, but I'm too lazy to look that up. I do believe there's forever for most people, and I'm certainly an exception. I also think a marriage should be a commitment that people are allowed to make, and I'm not put off by the term "divorce." I wear that word like a badge because it means I recognize that I made a serious mistake and now I hopefully know better. It also means that I do know when to quit, throw in the towel, part ways, take my leave, or any other phrases appropriate here. Divorce means liberation to me as well. It means I cannot be hurt by her, because they no longer have a position of power in my life.
I don't picture being married again. I could be convinced to grow older with someone, if it were the right circumstances. I don't think I can trust people like that right now though.