ya all, i wanted chime in a while ago, but didnt have my thoughts formed... still not sure i do, but here goes..

i'll start by saying i'm a real skinny guy.... ive always been super self conscious about it cause when i was a teen and couldnt find a girlfriend, a girl looked at me one time and said 'i could kick your butt myself' ... i was confused by all the thoughts i had at one time...

she said i was weak... she said even a girl could beat me up... how could i even think about fighting a girl? what if she did kick my butt? what then?

so i was kinda floored and it made me really self-conscious about my looks...

so, i go on living and see how everyone puts alot of emphasis on looks, but everyone denies they do.... ok, not everyone, a whole lot of people are enlightened and know beauty inside is what really counts...

but as i go on living, i still cant find a girlfriend... i blame it on my skinniness cause none of them ever talked to me much to begin with... so i knew it wasnt my confused state of being that was turning them off..

well, a few did talk to me and then they found out how mixed up i was and so they moved on....

so i know how it feels to be body image conscious and im not the only guy either...

the thing is, i heard a lot of people say looks DO matter... and i gotta agree...

so the guy comes here his first time out and expresses an issue he's trying to understand and gets a mix of responses and all of them would help him, though he'd hafta be pretty enlightened to glean the good from some...

and, he hasnt been back... well, his question seemed to be mean spirited to some and i can see why...

but, now we dont know for sure... maybe it was real hard for him to ask and maybe he isnt satisfied with howit sounded when he finished, but maybe it was the best he could do with his skill set...

these are just my thoughts and ive regretted sticking my nose in before, so this could be one of those times... i wont let myself get too crushed about what gets said cause i cant take that much painmyself...

im just trying to speak for someone who isnt here at the moment but want to give a benefit of doubt to until i get more information...

thanks for listening...