I think the reason OT asks you quesrions back is because you are asking her questions she is not trained to answer. They are outside of her job description and probably her ability. Those are the kinds of questions you should be asking and discussing with a trained therapist or counselor-- like the domestic violence counselor OT suggested you make an appointment with. I think your expectations for OT are somewhat unrealistic; her job is do a specific set of tasks like take you to appointments and help you with the skills you need in order to be able to work (or get disability). She can't be your emotional support person because that isn't her job. It really sounds like you need a therapist, so why not call today and ask for an appointment? The reality is that, as adults, we have to be responsible for ourselves. As much as we wish someone else could take of us, we have to take care of ourselves. So why not take care of yourself by taking the initiative to make yourself an appointment with a sexual violence counselor at the charity your OT told you about? I can relate to the disappointment that OT can't be perfect and can't be the one to "save" you-- those of us who didn't get taken care of as children feel like we got cheated out of that experience. But that doesn't change the fact that we are now adults and have to look out for ourselves-- because the reality is that no one else will.

To have a better understanding of your situation, what is the disability you have that requires you to have an OT and care coordinator? Do you have an intellectual disability or just mental health disability? Do you want to work towards getting a job or do you need to be on disability permanently?