I have been in her shoes... I left a very lucrative career and then shut everyone out.

I know from my experience...if you push her or pressure her she will pull further and further away...Alcohol...also is probably playing a role in her spiraling moods.

I'm not saying she is alcohol dependent or drinks too much, just saying that alcohol is a depressant and drinking any alcohol when already depressed is going to make things worse...so she unfriended everyone AFTER being out and having a good time...she gets home and depression and low thoughts began and she reacted on them.

As hard as it is...my opinon...because I too will go thru periods of wanting to isolate...is you and the other 2 friends need to step back..don't pressure her into talking...she WILL come around...but wants her space at the moment.

Something that I always WANTED when I was feeling like this...was someone to CARE...but to care from a DISTANCE....Like I would mope around wondering why no one cared...and wish I would recieve a card or letter in the mail saying someone was thinking of me....but that never came for me....I wanted the thoughts and prayers..but not the interaction.

I always end up coming around. I am in that slump right now...and my closest friend has learned...just not to contact me and that I will be back in touch with him when I am ready...my actions are selfish...its not fair that some people care about me and I push them away...But again I know from experience...if you keep pushing forced communication on someone who wants to be left alone it will just push her further away.

For yourself...not sleeping over this? Your a good friend...just SIT with THAT for now...The only thing I think you can do that would really brighten her day is get her a funny card...or write her a little note that you are concerned about her and that you are always there for her if she needs you and then let it alone...

I can almost promise you...she is going to snap back....because I always do...she sounds resiliant...and I was also kicked out at 17 (not 16)...and we had to learn how to live and cope without good adult role models...and experiences like this make a person resiliant...she will prevail....But just give her the space for her to get to the point where she realizes she is lonely and let her know that you all are there for her when she is ready.

Because I find when my friends keep sending me texts...and pressuring me to be in contact with them...it makes me feel worse because I feel like a terrible friend for not wanting contact....So NOW...they just wait..and I do come around...she will too.