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Originally Posted by Frankbtl
Hi Fluffy
Glad that you're feeling a bit better and sounds like you made the right decision for you 
Kind of sounds like you made that decision with a basis of not trying to "fit in" with what you were worried other people's perceptions of you might be (if they matter they'll like you for you- going to a party or not!!), accepting who you are and what you want (and not going to a party like that does not have to effect how successful you are) and you let go of the control it seemed the ex had over the way you "felt you needed to be/show yourself!!!
So good on you for taking that stand, and real glad you did that for you!!!
As for the social phobia, well maybe be a little kinder to yourself in working on that??
Perhaps (if you aren't alredy!!) set yourself goals of doing social settings a little (or a lot!!) less "intense" than a party, if you think one/any may be a little too much for you?? Just do things at your pace, hey?? And what's right for you
Alison |
Thank you! I probably came off a bit elitist like "iīm too classy to party" which is not what i meant, you can be very classy and nice and still party, obviously.
Told my ex i didnīt go to that party and he told me my friends were not my friends because they hadnīt spoken to me in months. Heīs right, maybe i should try to make new friends......one step at a time.