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Originally Posted by Misssy2
hey fluff....It is important for me when I provide feedback to know age because things change so much as we get older. Thank you for sharing the information.
I think that you were very young when this was occuring...and it is not usual that someone will stay with one person from the age of 15 throughout the rest of their lives.
It seems there s more wrong with this relationship than your issues...he has issues too. Controlliing behavior is not healthy.
Do I think the app will make me more crazy? I certainly do...but my situation is different than you. I am 53 and if he wants to be with me it will be on my terms and nothing else.
For you...you did this 3 years ago...you are not a BAD person...you were a young teenager..craving attention...I"m glad you have gotten help and seek attention less.
I think it is time to forgive yourself and stop letting this be held over your head.
I also think it is time to let this relationship go...and go your seperate ways...too much is wrong with it.
I know there are people that DO stay together from a young age..and last a lifetime...but this is rare and they don't usually START out with problems like this.
Realize you are a growing adult....learn from your mistakes..have more respect for yourself than to be beat up with this for the rest of your life...and ensure and insist that you only stay with "men" that have the utmost respect for you.
Never accept when someone has crossed a line or a boundary with you....because then they will assume that you are ok with being a doormat...And if you end up in another relationship that you are unhappy enough...be grown up enough to confront the situation prior to moving on to the next person.
You will then feel like you are doing the right things...and you will feel better about yourself.
I hope you find happiness one day with the perfect "fit" but this is not the guy in my opinion.
You could start now by telling this guy how much you have learned in this relationship..how special he was in your life but that you think it is time for you both to move on...and then DATE AWAY.
Good luck - fluffy.
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Thank you so much for your thoughtful advice! Itīs true my first post didnīt provide much of a context at all, i think deep down i wanted someone to reply that i was a horrible person for cheating. I keep seeking validation for the bad things i think about myself, gotta stop doing that.
And i agree your situation seems a lot different. He and i are not exactly equals. Maybe itīs time to move on and forget the past. Iīll always care about him but itīd be nice to turn a new leaf, or whatever that saying goes.