IA_2809 that is a great point. I think a thing here is that you cannot control people. I said that hat fat cat lat chat a group therapy session about things that irratie and annoy us. The person has a mind of their own and can go toward the abuser rather than the victim. Just like the people that are supposed to help you( therapist and such). Thank you for your great point on how systems that are intended to be good can in fact go bad. Just like asylums. They were meant for good but turned bad. Now mental hospitals are better and there are no asylums. The ribbion butterfly headphones cry board.