That sounds really hard, confused. I hope the next session will be better. Lots of people's sessions after the break seem to be hard ones.

I wonder if T's withhold their connection or empathy from clients to try to manipulate them into behaving the way they want them to (not SI-ing, for example)? Then if clients behave well, they are rewarded with empathy, love, connection, etc.

(confused, I'm not saying your T is doing that--I'm just throwing out that idea, in general.)