thank you for all the advice. i went to see my ob. he gave me a referral to get an echocardiogram to rule out a heart problem, but also gave me xanax and paxil to treat the anxiety. the paxil is supposed to be an every day thing but he said it wont do anything for a few weeks. i've never heard of medicine taking that long to work. he told me to take the xanax in the meantime whenever i feel really bad. now i'm dreading it happening again. i'm afraid of that feeling coming back and even more afraid the medicines he gave me wont help me. every time i'm home alone i feel sick and nervous. my husband hasn't exactly been supportive. less than a week after the surgery he said he wasn't sure if he could be with me much longer because i'm very "needy". it felt like i was being punched in the stomach. i don't want anything right now beside a shoulder to cry on. and to sleep. i haven't asked him for much except emotional support. apparently thats too much.