Is it anyway? I found out that being manipulative in the right circunstances is a great skill to have... Lying when you have to, hide stuff, saying what others want to ear, may be better than worst.

For instances it can win people. It is a valuable social skill. That I don't have.

Maybe this is not being horrible. Most people are not horrible. So I guess, saying not being it is a good thing is setting the bar too low.

I am not trying to be mean while saying this, nothing personal, you were trying to be supportive, but just my cynic view on life.

And you don't know me, nor where you talking about me personally...