I finally just told my counselor those steps point blank - told her which stage I felt I was in, and that I was looking for advice.

It was the only way I could see to cut "the nonsense". It worked. If she saw me sinking - and could not determine exactly what stage I was in, she would ask. If I faltered on explaining, she knew I was in a danger zone. So - that's my best suggestion.

*hugs*

Hope it helps ❤