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Old Nov 08, 2017, 09:01 PM
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I do find that it's an important step that you addressed it when you've addressed it. That draws a line. That is saying that you aren't appreciative of such attachments developing in your marital life. It's better to address it than remain silent which leads to your heartstrings being trampled all over.
Maybe to him in his mind it's innocent, yet, there's obviously a part of him gravitating to the newfound attention. His ego is involved hence his own reaction.
She probably adores the attention? Consciously or not there's a lack of traditional boundaries going on.
It's tough the moment one realizes that the relationship that they thought they had has been triangulated in any way.
Hoping that your husband finds some sense of sensitivity to how it must leave you feeling.