I have no idea on how to proceed. It’s a hard situation since I cannot get away from her even when I really want that because she is my husband’s friend girlfriend and the lead singer in his band. We have talked about the subject in a more relaxed way recently and I believe he is truly trying to get away from her, but I still feel really uncomfortable and have the unshakable need of spying on him, even though I know this would make him very mad. I have the feeling that the trust we built throughout all these years of marriage has crumbled down and all because of this stupid situation in which I feel the need of controlling him and he feels watched and hates it.