Thank you, pink, that is a hopeful outlook. I had kind of thought it went that way too, but with recent disconnect, I was wondering if maybe I had it all wrong, that our degree of connection had peaked, was now declining, and would wither away to... termination. I really appreciate everyone here saying that depressing scenario is not the case!

I had the best thing happen today. I went to see my own financial planner instead of the shared one I had been using with my H. It was great! This is going to be sooooo helpful. I feel 10 times better than yesterday, like maybe I won't have to be a bag lady after all. As we were wrapping up, I said to the FP, that my therapist knows and loves you. Who is that? she asked. I told her who my T was, and she said, "gosh, I love him too," and laughed.