Dear T2,
Here is a list of things that you do that T1 could not:
- Reflect and comment on what I say in a manner that suggests that you have actually understood me and you actually give a s**t.
- Remember things that I've said. Like, properly specifically remember things.
- Honestly and appropriately share your experiences and impressions in the moment with me.
- Suggest metaphors and analogies that are imaginative and accurate, instead of a load of tedious rubbish...
(In our final session, in an attempt to argue that I shouldn't leave him, T1 said something like: "imagine if a person said they really didn't like cars, but they'd never actually driven one, and then they drove ten cars and said they still didn't like them - that would just be because its a foregone conclusion."
This bears no resemblance to my situation with him whatsoever... I never claimed to 'not like' therapists and I'm still not claiming such (though I am pretty suspicious of most of them at this point) - I also haven't 'driven' ten of them and I had no foregone conclusions about T1. In fact I desperately wanted to make it work.
But also, it doesn't even make sense in itself. Because maybe those cars were s**t, T1. Or maybe that person just doesn't bloody like cars. Maybe you should leave them alone and stop insisting that they drive...)
ANYWAY... T2, here is a list of things that T1 did that you cannot:
- Be the most beautiful person alive.
Oh well.
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