In order to stop our mistakes we need to analyze why we made the mistakes in the first place so we can catch ourselves before we make the mistake again, not looking back afterward. Learning the DISCERNMENT you talked about is key. Not being so desperate at not wanting to be alone that you settle for anyone who shows interest in you is key in this discernment process.

You will probably have to write off the money you gave to your ex as a learning experience just like the money spent on the psychics. It made you feel good helping him or you would have stopped doing that long before you finally did. The money you spent on the psychics made you feel better about yourself.

NOW you need to internalize ALL of these experiences & KNOW who you are & what you WANT from your life & take control instead of being controlled emotionally by those around you.....be it BF or psychics making you feel good about yourself. It needs to come from WITHIN YOURSELF. From what you have written here, it sounds like this is actually the growing pains you are going through right now even more that just the process of getting over your ex.