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Originally Posted by kuro92
I completely understand how you feel. I'm constantly wishing I could get revenge on my ex and his new gf for all the pain they caused me and awful things they said to me. The best advice I can give from my experience is keep yourself busy. When I'm busy, I don't think of my ex. When I do things for myself that make me feel good, I start to feel better. Also these thoughts will subside so know it's just temporary. You'll come to accept that it's not worth it to waste your time on someone who wasn't deserving of your love. The best revenge is living your life to the fullest and being successful.
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Yeah, keeping busy helps a lot. That was my problem over the last couple weeks since my breakup. I was CONSUMED by my rage, to the point where I couldn't see straight and I couldn't think of anything else but HIM.
I am finally at a place mentally and emotionally now where I am detaching from him and my thoughts are starting to shift from him onto ME. Like what's next? What can I learn from this? And who cares what HE thinks or feels!
I am getting out a lot and am doing what i most enjoy, which is seeing live music, dancing and seeing my friends. This HELPS tremendously. When I am out, I don't really think of him and I am focused all on me, my friends and enjoying myself. This has been the only respite I've been able to get from my thoughts.
It's a process for sure, but I see improvements each day. And now, I feel much stronger for it. I know that NO CONTACT is the best policy. I've blocked him in every way, and this time, through the second breakup with him, I am not bombarding him with angry texts like I did the last time we broke up. I have let it be and have walked away.
I agree that the best revenge is living my life, being happy and being successful. I will get there.
thank you again.
