Thank you for the reminder. This is honestly the only thing that has kept me from immediately softening my heart to him again. My mother bought me "The Emotionally Destructive Marriage" by Leslie Vernick a couple days ago and I'm eager to finish reading; it has been very helpful in identifying patterns from our past.

I've also been making plans, over the last few weeks; changed the passwords to all of my email addresses, changed the usernames and passwords to all of my bank and credit card accounts; my parents have already stated that I and my daughter are welcome to stay until the end of time, but I've also been looking into possible apartment options, as well as planning a budget in the event that I get a divorce and become a single mother. We had intended to buy a house this year (which continued to be impossible through strange circumstances, which looking back I think may have been God trying to tell me something!!) so I have over $12,000 saved in the bank right now. My husband quit his job some years ago and we have been living on my income up until 1 year ago when he got a weekend job.

Yes, I agree. I intend to seek individual counseling for myself as well as my husband; he had a panic attack/mental breakdown a week ago and stayed inside a single room for 3 days straight. I wish I had called 911, but I had thought at first that it was food poisoning and so wasn't too concerned beyond the obvious 'keep him hydrated' sort of thing.

You are not the first person to say this to me. I am trying very hard to remain guarded during this time.

Again, thank you so much for your insight and advice. I greatly appreciate it.