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Originally Posted by golden_eve
I also realized that when someone treats you with HATRED rather than LOVE and respect, that that is abuse. This has taken me time to see and realize -- at first with my ex I chalked up his abusive words towards me as anger, hurt feelings and upset. The first time we broke up, he became hateful towards me, calling me names and calling me "trash". But now I see that being hateful towards someone you supposedly love with all your heart and soul can be defined and categorized as emotional abuse.
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There's a quote I've seen going around lately, which I believe is from a tv show, but it still is profound. Something to the tune of: "When you look at someone through rose colored glasses, all the red flags just look like normal flags."
This is why it so often takes us a long time, with a lot of trials, to realize that someone is truly toxic. Once we decide we love or trust someone, toxicity is a lot harder to perceive! I am proud of you for being able to think through this and reach this conclusion. We all wear those rose colored glasses at some point, so don't ever beat yourself up for "missing the signs" or not seeing this sooner.
