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Originally Posted by Bjørnen
There's a quote I've seen going around lately, which I believe is from a tv show, but it still is profound. Something to the tune of: "When you look at someone through rose colored glasses, all the red flags just look like normal flags."
This is why it so often takes us a long time, with a lot of trials, to realize that someone is truly toxic. Once we decide we love or trust someone, toxicity is a lot harder to perceive! I am proud of you for being able to think through this and reach this conclusion. We all wear those rose colored glasses at some point, so don't ever beat yourself up for "missing the signs" or not seeing this sooner.  |
thank you soo much for saying this..... I won't beat myself up. It IS easy to miss toxicity once you have those rose colored glasses on! I most certainly believed he was a good guy because he presented himself as such. I wanted to believe that and fell for it, while ignoring the signs that said otherwise.
I do have compassion for myself and the mistakes I made in this. I am thankful that I have come to this conclusion and can see it all now for what it truly was --- abuse. And I am thankful that I am strong enough to not let his abusive words effect me or my self esteem. Thank God.
I am getting out of this relatively unscathed... it took a couple weeks to get there, but now that i recognize the abuse, it is SO much easier to let go and walk away for good.
And now that I see where and how I went wrong, I will do FAR better this next go around.
thank you so much again for your support!!
