Alice, you know, I've spent a lot of time thinking about what I want, need and deserve in a relationship. Stability, honesty and openness are included in that list.

I think the way that he handled things with you was pretty crappy. He should have told you this sooner, as in before planning a trip together. He pulled the rug out from under you, when you thought everything was fine. He let on as though everything was fine.

I guess what I am saying is perhaps think about what you truly want and need in a relationship. Like I was saying earlier, this is a set up for an emotional yo-yo effect, if he comes back to you like you are hoping. He could easily pull away again, saying the same things. This is not a recipe for stability and reliability.

(((((((Hugs)))))))