It is really good that you have had an insight into something about yourself that you would like to change, and have become motivated to truly make some changes. These are the most important steps to change and growth.

Here are two ideas.

1. This article is about limiting instant reactions by looking at your emotions in the moment:

https://tricycle.org/magazine/power-...moment-method/

2. You might be interested in the STOP technique and a video about it:

S = Stop

T = Take a breath

O= Observe something

P = Proceed