Is your marriage really unhappy? It sounds more like you are struggling with isolation and feeling good within yourself.... there definitely needs to be more to life than just staying at home with the kids 24/7. And if there's very little sex between you and your husband, naturally since this person came in and pumped some life back into you, you wandered mentally.

But that is not where you need to be -- or where your head needs to be, unless you feel there is no chance for you and your husband to be happy together.

Perhaps can you go out on a romantic date with your hubbie once in a while to pump some romance into your relationship? Are you able to get a sitter for a night here and there?

Your obligation right now is to yourself, your husband and your kids. You owe it to your hubbie to try...... leave no stone unturned. And if there is something lacking in the marriage OR within your own life, which is what it seems, brainstorm... how can you make it better for both you and your husband? What can you do about it? And what can be improved? Can you also talk more openly with your hubbie about the lack of sex and the isolation you feel? Your need for something greater?

Most of all, you've got to value yourself WITHIN yourself. Self worth comes from within, and is not external. Those who have been abused often suffer from low self worth and struggle with it. It cannot come from another person, a man, or an external circumstance. It must be developed within...... no matter what is happening outside yourself. That is inner strength and inner well being. So perhaps also work on your own sense of self-worth, while also seeking ways to improve happiness in your life and with your hubbie.

((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))