This could be a long reply, I apologize in advance.

I relate a lot to your post. I however am not married, in fact, I have very few supportive people at all. Most of my support in my life has come from my pets or strangers online.

First I'll address the festival thing. While I've never bumped into my T anywhere, I TOTALLY would be you, with how you feel ignored etc. Someone else pointed above they should of waited for you to decide how to respond, it's what I read all over on how this works. I personally don't get the big deal, its a huge thing, not like anyone is gonna know or care how you know each other. I personally have no issues with people knowing I see a T or that it would be him. *However now that I'm thinking of it I need to ask in the unlikely event we do cross paths, how my T would handle it*
I would for sure bring it up, your feelings about it. absolutely

Second... here is where things get tricky, I don't like giving a lot of personal details online about my T and I. there is a lot of really "fine line" stuff between us... but I'll do what I can to get my point across. My T hugs me, like you, I have wanted that contact for a long time, due to never getting it from my family, only my dogs really and somewhere along the way, I grew to dislike being touched at all, even though I craved it.... so yes we end every season that way, when I cry, he hugs me longer or we do a comfort hand hold. This is all great but trust me, it fuels intense feelings.

I have very much a "Friend like" relationship with my T. Again, not wanting to say too much, because I personally am ok with how things are since my post therapy hope is to be friends to some degree... but this is very confusing at times. It is awesome because he is open with me and I do feel I know quite a bit about him, more than I probably should, but its also helped me feel comfortable and trusting with him. I know for a fact he has several things he does just for me, not other clients. This obviously makes me feel even more close with him.

While the friend like thing is understandable desire, I can tell you from experience, it has it's perks but it also has it's downfalls. I struggle in session often to actually get anywhere progress wise. I feel I've made very small progress in the time we have been together. I struggle at times to be deep and emotional, because I would rather just be chill and relax. It is very conflicting and a mental hell somedays...

However, leading to your last part... that's your call but in my situation as tough as it is on me mentally, no way I'd quit or find a new T. We have an awesome connection that works for me. I would not risk never getting that again with another. I can understand wanting to quit over this, but again, your call. I think at the very least... talk to him about it. Write down notes or send an email if he allows it, explaining some of the things you posted here and how you want to discuss them. Discussing the relationship with have with our T's can be hard but it is needed. My T is well aware of my friendship desires etc.... it was awful and terrifying bringing it up but it all went well.

Whatever you choose.... I wish you luck