(((((((((( Patty )))))))))))

I do so understand being "gun shy" about relationships. You would have thought after 2 failed marriages I would have been that way. But for the life of me, I just couldn't. I couldn't allow the difficulties of those relationships ruin what could be in my future...what could be a good thing. For me, I had to take what I had been through and apply it to who I was at the end of the relationships. What do I want, what do I NOT want and hell no I won't settle again. And I didn't settle. I found a man who accepts me for me, who doesn't try to change me unless I want to change, then he is supportive either way. I found a man that I don't have to change because I love him for his good parts and the parts I'm not so keen on....I love the whole package. If he wants to change, I will support him, if not, it's ok because I don't expect it.

I don't have a quick and easy solution to your problem. All I can go by is my own experience. And I refuse to let the difficulties of past horrors to rule my life anymore. I guess thats me....can you find it in you?


sabby