Tisha.....had to chuckle at your typo.

It's so easy to rationalize away red flags we do see. After my experience If I see any red flags I'm outta there.....but also not looking. Maybe that may be part of why I didn't push the divorce through because I was screwed by my name not being able to be removed from the home loan in the first place divorced or not. I know legally I am not responsible for any other debt incurred because my name isn't involved in anything else. I closed all accounts that were joint after cleaning up the mess with the IRS (7 years dealing with that after I left). Not being divorced (legally still married) keeps me totally out of any available scene (my protection).