jacq... i know how hard event the thought of showing your t what you have done... mine has me keep a chart and give it to him every week...when i cut... he asks me to show him what i did... he really hasn't ever given me a choice...the couple times i refused he just sat there patiently... until i could get to a safe place first...it's so hard and i feel so exposed... but at the same time...after it's kind of a relief...i think part of it is exposing the secret.., a couple times they were really deep... and i could see the pain in his eyes... lyn