Thank you everyone for your advice and support. I wrote the initial message four months ago. Since then nothing really has changed except my mother and I are "on the surface" getting along. I try desperately not to react to some of the things she says. I have learned quite late in life that the discipline of not-reacting is one of the hardest things to do. My husband and I are separated. I don't think he's taking it seriously because he just goes along and does what he wants. Or maybe he is taking it serious and he never really did care. He was in "it" for monetary purposes. His mother and I do not speak. It's awful. I overheard a conversation between the two of them that tipped the top. Living with my husband is like living with a delinquent seventeen-year-old kid. We are separated but in the State where we reside it's legal to live in the same house and be separated. I really don't know what to do even now. I am trying to get disability but I'm really not that positive I will get it. I live in what is considered "a resort area" so employment is very limited, to say the least. I used to live in DC which and was practiced as a Patent Law secretary. There is nothing like that in this State. Retail is primary what one goes for here. I tried that but I soon learned that most of the jobs had a three-month wait for benefits and as soon as one got near to that date that person is let go. I guess what I'm struggling with is I REALLY resent my husband for moving us here just so he could be close to his mamma. I suggested townhouses in VA but he wanted a house. He had his mind made up a long time ago. Why did he buy land here in 1999 if he didn't plan on eventually moving? I don't know what was wrong with me back then. I think I was in a state of shock or something similar because my father had just passed away, my beloved sister committed suicide, and I had to file bankruptcy because of the drug habit. I just let my husband take control. Now.... fifteen years later I am awake. And I don't know what to do. My mother is quite wealthy but is both emotionally non-supportive and monetarily non-supportive. My sister who lives in the same State with my mother and was somewhat getting along with her has recently fallen out with her, meaning she calls her once a week to see how she is doing. I have come to realize that my mother is a narcissist. I have literally asked her three times for help monetarily and all three times were upsetting. The last time I asked is what broke the camels back. She knows that I am good with money. We had the same broker. My sister and I just cannot understand it. I would venture to say that she is cruel and stingy. My husband has retired and she still only counts on him. It's infuriating! I've contacted services that are able to come in and help her. However, my mother wants nothing to do with it. I asked her recently why she depends so much on my husband (soon to be ex) and she says "because it has always been that way." Am I the only one who thinks this is an unhealthy situation? She called me one day and wondered what my husband was doing over here, almost indignant that he wasn't there in VA. She has isolated everyone... from her yard help to her kids. I call her about twice a week and I have to take a tranquilizer before doing so. I apologize. This has gotten extremely long. I guess I needed to vent. So on goes the drama. The good part is that I now value laughter as a godsend! and a sense of humor. Thank you all for listening....