actually I relate to this at the point in my life I got married. Actually none of the guys I knew at that point in time in my life would have made me happy then or now. But I am in a totally different place in my own personal self now. I still wouldnt tolerate any of those guys & now, unless the right guy does come along which I AM NOT looking for, I am so happy alone on my farm it would be a miracle if any guy would be able to qualify for a permanent (not just friend) position in my life. So yes no one is perfect, there are things that may not be ideal (these are not red flags in my book) in someone, but RED FLAGS are totally out of the question.