For the past several months I have been living with a friend. I really like my privacy and spend most of my time in my room. My friend is a little strange but we all have our little quirks. We have gotten along pretty well and the living situation has been comfortable. BUT.. . she has a 17 year old daughter, who I have always felt close to. Lately when the daughter finds her self in deep trouble she finds something thinks of something to tell on me about. When I lost my job a few weeks ago I came home. The daughter was smoking marajuana in her room with friends. I came to her door and the smoke billowed out. Well, I said, hey give me a hit on that. Not a good idea I know. Not a good example to set either. But in my opinion I was not the one that should have been in deep do do. My friend searches her daughters room all the time for pot or drugs and rants and raves but never really follows through with any punishment. This time was the same. But I was told that I had lost all credibility. I told her I was sorry she felt that way. As I said before, I really should not have asked to take a toke from that joint. But it was not my pot and I was not fogging up my room, the daughter and her friends were.. So when mom came home and pitched a fit, the daughter had to tell on me. Yesterday the daughter got kicked out of school again. I have tried to talk to her before about the importance of school and education etc. I said I know you want to have a good job, I know you want more then your mom has, dont you? She made a couple comments about her mom and then went back in her room. But I made this comment because the daughter has told me on more then one occasion that her mom says "you dont love me" you dont respect me" and the daughter told me, "I love my mom" I just dont respect her, she doesnt even work, she doesnt even have a job." I would also like to add that mom has a friend that she occasionally does a little work for. About 5 or 6 days in the last 3 months! My wording was probably not the best, but my statement was totally based on information I got from her several times. Boy this is turning out to be a longer post then I thought sorry.
Anyway, of course when the daughter got in trouble today, all of a sudden I am in trouble and mom needs to talk to me etc etc. I have been able to avoid her today. I dont want to hear the crap that she is going to fling at me! And I think she needs to look at the game her daugther (who does no wrong) plays with her and now I am involved. I know I will be confronted tomorrow, and I am thinking I should just say, my comment was based on being told that your daughter does not respect you cause you dont work! I dont need this crap. One thing I am going to do is only smile, say hi and bye to the daughter. But any sugesstions?