not sure if this is helpful or anything but i used to shut down often or side step things with humor and felt like i was going nowhere, so i started emailing him prior to session about things i wanna talk about or writing down notes of things and having him or i go over them in session. usually he would read them but lately i am doing it.

anyway, its been very helpful. it makes it easier for me to feel ok opening up and i totally get the attachment thing but for me, i feel way more comfortable with him, as opposed to how it makes you feel so i can't help much there