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Nov 12, 2017, 10:59 PM
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Originally Posted by Olive303
I did tell them I need some boundaries and after that I have NOT spoken about family stuff with my boyfriend and boyfriend stuff with my family (only surface level stuff).
I moved to a new state to be with my boyfriend and I hate it. I miss my family and especially my friends and the state itself. I have been visiting my family alone for holidays and my boyfriend says he never wants to go with me. The problem is that I want to move back to my home state and he doesn't. Not just because of my family- thats only 3 people- but also all my close friends there and the place itself is amazing. He thinks if we're living in the same state as my family then they would get too close and tear us apart.
My perfect world would be living an hour or so away from my family and spending time with both parties separately and occasionally getting all together for holidays. He wants to be as far away as possible but I am so miserable in the new state I moved to.
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I really don't think you are being unreasonable with this desire. It sounds like your boyfriend is holding a grudge. I worry that you are doing something that makes you unhappy, just to please him. If he really loves you, he will want you to be happy and understand your desire to be closer to your family.
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