I'm sorry for what happen to you. I can relate that. Mostly I deal with my problem alone. I'm barely gotten help by anyone.

Sometimes, I think the phrase is wrong. It is not, "only you can help yourself". The right one is, "only you who willing to help yourself". It's sad and suck, but it's the truth.

I'm sorry if my opinion let you down. I only want to say, keep going on and do your best.