Maybe there are 50 shades of RED.

When we first get close with someone, things they say or do are noticed, but don’t register in our minds. Even when we do note the behavior, we dismiss it because we so want this person to be ‘the one’.

Then all these warnings add up or there is one thing that is so much we can’t help but stop and rethink things.

There’s always this looking back period after the break up where we have this flash of all the red flags we kick ourselves for not paying attention to.

Then— was this professional right? Would I have never been happy with anyone? Is the ultimate RED FLAG me? Should we all consider we are the problem? Or maybe it’s society that tells us we have to pair up, when we don’t really even want to?

TBH, I enjoyed connecting with new loves and the honeymoon phase, but when those red flags added up, I was happy to be rid of that person. Why does it have to be forever?

I committed to the best man I could find. He really is. We had children together and raised them. I am proud to have accomplished that. But, the relationship was torture for me.

We saw our friends last night, this nice couple we really like. And we told them we are splitting up. I’ve had it. This last weekend was the last time, I promise.

Together and happy is wonderful. Alone and content is great, too.