yes, people can be controlling in just one area of life. That is way more than JUST being stubborn. FORCING you to chose between him in another state & your family just because the poor way your family treated him is selfish & it shows that he cares more about himself than you or he would be willing to compromise.

So at this point in time it's this....what will come up in the future that he will not be willing to compromise over. Marriage is all about compromise, not selfish stubbornness/control. I can see going out of state because job demands take someone there & there is no quality job closer then compromise to go to that other state is understandable but the other state JUST BECAUSE of your parents is totally unreasonable. If you are this miserable now about where you are living it will only get worse with time not better especially if you hate the state to begin with.

You are the one being forced to do ALL the giving up. Is that reallybthebkind of marriage you want? There can be DEAL BREAKERS in relationships no matter how much you may care for someone. You have to look at your happiness & weigh out all the positives & negatives & in the end...it is your choice you have to live with so it is really wise to KNOW YOURSELF.

Bottom line is that you can't make anyone be at peace with each other & actually your BF's choice is feeding the lack of peace & creating more tension between him & your family because he is unwilling to compromise & is taking a controlling stand.....driving an even bigger wedge between them.