Quote:
Originally Posted by Vibrating Obsidian
Using pessimism such as 1. “you need friends or else you’ll be alone”.
Or “You need to think of others, you can’t be wrapped up in your own feelings” - when I just told him I care first and foremost about my own feelings. Again with a condemning tone.
Telling me I attack others with anger. When I asked him how does he know, his response is “you’re attacking me”, 2. making me feel bad about releasing anger rather than have my right to express it.
Also, it was unhealthy “mind-reading”, and he’d excuse such remarks with 3. “If you behave such way with me then you probably behave such way with others”...
Please help me deal with this.
|
Point 3 above is the basis on which psychotherapy is built, its not peculiar to you. Its why and how psychotherapy can work.
Point 2 - you claim you have this right relative to this person (the therapist). How do you know you have this right? Do you have a contract stating it? Maybe you have to ask for the right. This is not trivial!
Point 1 - our parents could have made it easier for us to tolerate friends. Instead they forced us to choose between having our parents (and surviving), or having friends. Now, older, we need friends to survive (and mate with etc). If we dont adapt, our genes will not survive, period. Some parents do succeed in killing their young. Your therapist is trying to make that not happen. Again, not trivial.