I completely understand how you feel. When I meet someone, I tell them I am psychotic and I have OCD. That way, there is no shock when they realize who I truly am. They know that they are in the presence of someone who doesn't sugarcoat things or is two-faced.

Of course, you want to be seen for you, and not for having BPD. This takes time and patience. You want to surround yourself with people who love you and accept you for who you are as a person. Finding the right set of supportive friends and family requires "weeding out" those who pretend they care about you. If someone judges you or makes you feel worse, this is an indicator that they must exit your life.