So, I've realized that I met yet another toxic person (toxic for me) and found myself liking him up until now, until I saw behaviors in him that were big RED FLAGS for me, and I caught myself from overlooking the flags.

We were kissing one night, passionately in my car as I was about to drive home and he came over to say good night -- well he pulled a 50 Shades of Grey, Sub/Dom type of maneuver on me while we were kissing. I asked him what he was doing and stopped him. That may be OK and just fine for some people, but it's not for me and makes me VERY uncomfortable. Then the next time we hung out, he very disrespectfully took off without saying goodbye to me. He just vanished. I've decided to CEASE any romantic ties to this person. I thought about it further and realized that he should have asked me if this Sub/Dom thing was Ok with me, before assuming it was. Plus, leaving me, abandoning me in the club like that.

So I will NOT be kissing him again, that's for sure. He can remain at a distance from me -- arms length. I see him out often, so I have to at least be cordial, but that's it.