Arbie, what could your husband do or say that may motivate you to lose weight?
If he resolved to lose weight would that help? I don’t see any other way it could work than both of you participated.
But what if one spouse in is fit and the other is not? Then how does one approach the subject.
Some here say, just don’t, just tell them they are beautiful and love them unconditionally.
Sadly, I don’t see that as a solution, but that’s just me.