Oh sure I had a classic emotionally abusive jerk like this when I was young. It was all about his ignorant insecure self trying to control me. I don’t know many women who didn’t have at least one of these losers in her life.

One thought though about your comments: you say you wanted to make him mad and let him know you’ve moved on. You’ll know you’ve truly moved on when you have NO contact or communication with him, period. I don’t think you’re quite there yet if you’re still interested in his reactions to your life choices. Once he’s a non-entity and you don’t give a flying ****, then you’ll know for certain.

I understand how difficult it is to end a relationship, even one like yours. I was the same way - I especially wanted him to know I was seeing other men - LOTS of them.

That relationship was nearly 40 years ago. I have long forgiven him and he’s just a fuzzy memory. I’ve been married to a wonderful man for 33 years. The former jerk bf contacted me on FB a few years ago to apologize for being an *** - I said I appreciated that but it was another life and I’d long forgiven him.