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Nov 13, 2017, 03:43 PM
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Originally Posted by AlisaLight
I don't think you understand. He has switches of personality...this "person" with whom I'm dealing now,isn't the real him. He's still same,wonderful,amazing man when he's himself. He literally told me that when that a**hole(pardon my language) is on,he has no memory of it...of the days or anything. It's severe bipolar case here 
If I would allow that horrible side to get what he wants then he'd never forgive himself when the real him would switch back.
He told me that himself when he was still him...that I should never allow that other side to win,that I should never allow that horrible side to destroy our love...because he loves me,more than anything in this world.
This is hypomania what's talking,it's not the real him. :/
Do you know what his so called reasons are for wanting to break up?
Because to him there's no difference between lover and friend so...and I quote...why bother. He keeps saying how he loves me and cares for me and yet doesn't want to be with me...he keeps contradicting himself,his own words.
Does that sounds like sane person to you??
And no...I don't want to leave him,I love him...more than anything. He's my life partner and soulmate. I wouldn't go through all this trouble,and ask for help here. You don't leave someone just because at this moment you're going through something bad...that's not love. |
He sounds like he is manipulating and playing you. He can abuse you when he's hypomanic but then doesn't have to answer for it when he's normal because you'll accept his excuse that he doesn't remember and allow him to treat you badly again.
He may be bipolar but that's no excuse for abuse. I'm not saying to give up entirely, but maybe it would be better to accept his offer of friendship until he can get stabilized so you aren't suffering so much abuse at his hands. Because the effects of that abuse will remain for a while.
Is he on any medications?
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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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