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Originally Posted by Elio
Just a wondering question - would it be helpful to have one more meeting with him right before the end of the year - a catch up, update type of deal. It might make things worse, it might make things better - I don't know. It was just a thought that floated through when I read your post. I guess I was thinking about how after you break up with someone and you meet up with them months later, sometimes it can be good and help put that final closure in place. Other times it just sucks and brings forth all the feelings you had because it was too soon. No answers, just a thought.
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I've thought about it. A lot, actually. The people in my life that I know and trust have assured me that is a terrible idea. If I really evaluate where I am now versus where I was a year ago, I am doing much worse. There are a lot of reasons for that, of course, but he contributed to that, at least a little bit.
The only reason that I would want to go is that I miss him. There's no benefit from me in trying to keep the connection going.
This isn't a response designed to attack the idea. I understand why someone may consider that possibility. I know I have. But he hurt me in the course of therapy and would only do so more were I to see him again.
And writing this feels like turning a page. Hopefully recognizing that I miss him and that he's bad for me will help me continue to grow and move on.