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Originally Posted by ReptileInYourHead
Hey olive, I feel your pain. I went through a very similar situation. My marriage nearly dissolved and my parents left the country. I felt like I was stuck in the middle, crippled by inaction, fearful that any action I took would result in further drama.
Now I’m picking up the pieces and trying to make sense of what and why it happened.
My only advice, make sure that your family and your bf know exactly how this is affecting you and the consequences that will arise from their behaviour.
I failed to do that properly.
And don’t accept ultimatums, unless you truly think one party is definitely trying to harm your well being/marriage/family.
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I am sorry you are going through that.
I know what you mean by "crippled by inaction". I think when we are between a rock and a hard place its hard to know what to do so we do nothing, which is actually doing something.
This is eating away at me every day and I think no matter which road I take it will always eat away at me. That's why I am trying to fix things so I can take the road that would make me happiest, which is not an option at the moment. I am just hoping its possible. My boyfriend knows it is affecting me and he has put all blame on my family for mistreating him.