MH = Mental Health
MPD = Multiple Personality Disorder

Here's the thing...I don't think anyone thinks you should give up, but what I think would be good is, considering he's only recently been diagnosed is that you two agree to step back from the romance and stress of a relationship, be there as his friend while he goes through the process of finding the right meds, and once he's stabilized you can start the more serious side of the relationship again.

This will give him space to not be so stressed that he is hurting you when he's hypomanic, and also gives you space to be safe while he gets stabilized. It takes a while for people to find the right meds that work for them, and he's been asking you to step back for a while because he doesn't want to hurt you. It doesn't mean things are over, it just gives you two space to breathe while he figures things out. It takes the pressure off so he doesn't feel like he's letting you down all the time by going through this. It also will help you to realize you are NOT responsible for his moods or what he does during those moods.

You seem to feel responsible to take care of him when he's hypomanic and not let him have to suffer the consequences of his own actions when he's that way. Unfortunately, even when we are suffering from and MI (mental illness) we are still responsible for our actions when all is said and done. I've had to apologize multiple times for things I've done while in psychosis. But at the end of the day, I did those things. So I am responsible. I try to learn from it to figure out what to do during those times so I don't hurt others, and your BF has to learn to. Maybe when he's hypomanic he needs to not be around you so he doesn't hurt you?

Just some things to think about.

I fear you are becoming co-dependent with this relationship - you are taking on responsibility for his actions and emotions, dealing with emotional blackmail...all the signs of co-dependency. I think maybe it would be good for you to see a therapist yourself to help you establish boundaries in this relationship so you are taking care of your mental health at the same time.

Again, not saying it can't or won't work, just saying maybe you both need to slow down and allow him time to stabilize before putting the stress of a relationship on you both as well. Think long-term, not short-term. You want to build a good foundation, and he needs to be healthy for you to do that.

Seesaw