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Originally Posted by Alice007
We were together for 7 months.
He's bipolar with asperger's.
He called me last Sunday, we were talking about our work, planing and looking forward to our trip to Finland. Everything was alright. The next day he called me to say that he can't see our relationship going anywhere and he can't feel the spark.
At first I was shocked and extremely hurt. Wouldn't let him friendzone me and told him to throw away all my clothes and stuff I had at his house. He told me he'll call next day to check if I'm alright. He never did.
After the first shock, I was desperate for answers. He repeated the same thing, saying I'm a good person and haven't done anything wrong.
I've replied that I know it's not the spark and asked him if this has to do anything with his bipolar. Since then he's been ignoring me.
I would be so thankful if I could get some of your opinions here. Just to make some sense of it in my head.
And please don't judge me, I'm already falling apart anyway, feeling guilty of my reaction and thinking what I did wrong.
Can't eat or sleep for days, headaches, vomiting.. you name it.
Thank you in advance.
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unfortunately most of the advice you might receive or analysis of your situation will be based on assumption and no one here really has enough information for real analysis.
The best person to give you the answers you're looking for is going to be your ex partner who broke it off. only he knows the full answer to your question as to why, and whether you did anything wrong but.. that being said, why after he said it isn't anything you've done do you still ask what you did wrong?
There are cases where relationships don't work out when it's not based on anyone doing anything wrong. People don't always work out as couples but that does not necessarily mean either one is wrong or had to offend or transgress the other's limits. sometimes it's just incompatibility, other times it's that one or the other is not ready etc...
It's not easy to endure a break up when you thought things were great but don't beat yourself up about it and although you'll need to grieve the loss, try to move on, as you may never have all the answers.