i actually told a doc one time that when i need help and can't get it, i just do without. he asked me how i do that... O.O uh, er, poorly.

sometimes online help, peer support in the forums, or chat friends are all you can get... sometimes not even that. i have been known to say: "wait it out", endurance is a virtue.

here is one thing that you can do for yourself (slow but sure); a teacher advised me on a method for changing that really works:

1) DECIDE to change
2) decide WHAT to change
3) CHANGE as much as you can whenever you can
4) PRAISE yourself every time you make the change, no matter how much.

it is step 4 that most people don't realize is soooo important. it fixes the fact of the possibility of changing in ones mind, and enhances self esteem.
best wishes~